Creating positive change in someone's life in a kind and meaningful way is at the heart of my practice. My approach as a therapist is warm, engaging and encouraging as I assist people to look at their situation, help them sort out their issues, and decide how best to address them. My specialties are relationship, abuse-survival and sexuality/lifestyle issues.
For example: a married couple who want to improve their communication; a divorced couple who want to parent their children while minimizing the impact of their divorce on their kids; couples contemplating divorce; parents/couples divorcing and wanting to do so in a civil manner.
I also work with post-divorce issues, such as starting a new relationship and not wanting to "make the same mistakes"; addressing lingering anger/resentment with the "ex"; living with the new identity of being divorced or struggling with having been abused in the relationship.Another area I specialize in is abuse recovery; working with individuals who have survived physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse.
For example: a married couple who want to improve their communication; a divorced couple who want to parent their children while minimizing the impact of their divorce on their kids; couples contemplating divorce; parents/couples divorcing and wanting to do so in a civil manner.
I also work with post-divorce issues, such as starting a new relationship and not wanting to "make the same mistakes"; addressing lingering anger/resentment with the "ex"; living with the new identity of being divorced or struggling with having been abused in the relationship.Another area I specialize in is abuse recovery; working with individuals who have survived physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse.
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Therapist or Counselor
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I define a counselor as a person who does something for the person that they can't do.
This is a person who suggests ideas or solutions to the person seeking services.
They provide answers to the person, telling them how they are to do something, what they should say in different situations.
They take on the role of "the answer man".
They do for the person what the person can't do for themselves.
One could also describe this as providing information to a person that needs such; and some problems are of the "How do I do."
This is a person who suggests ideas or solutions to the person seeking services.
They provide answers to the person, telling them how they are to do something, what they should say in different situations.
They take on the role of "the answer man".
They do for the person what the person can't do for themselves.
One could also describe this as providing information to a person that needs such; and some problems are of the "How do I do."
Anxiety Counseling
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For most, panic and other forms of anxiety are INCREDIBLY uncomfortable.
But once you understand how they work, why they are in your life, what their function is and how to stop or minimize them; they lose their strength.
When working with someone struggling with one of these conditions, I look at when they occur, what was happening before and then after the incident, what you were thinking before, during and after the attack, what you did and didn't do as a result of the attack.
These are all important pieces of the puzzle.
But once you understand how they work, why they are in your life, what their function is and how to stop or minimize them; they lose their strength.
When working with someone struggling with one of these conditions, I look at when they occur, what was happening before and then after the incident, what you were thinking before, during and after the attack, what you did and didn't do as a result of the attack.
These are all important pieces of the puzzle.
Childhood Behavior
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These are what I call "Original Learning Experiences, " learning something for the very first time.
I see a lot of kids (who are still learning things for the first time) with parents that are frustrated because "He just doesn't seem to be "getting it"!, "She is so slow at times!" or "He's just doing this to frustrate me!".
Now, every situation is different but I have noticed in a fair amount of these cases that the problem is that the parent has forgotten that there is a time when you learn something for the very first time.
I see a lot of kids (who are still learning things for the first time) with parents that are frustrated because "He just doesn't seem to be "getting it"!, "She is so slow at times!" or "He's just doing this to frustrate me!".
Now, every situation is different but I have noticed in a fair amount of these cases that the problem is that the parent has forgotten that there is a time when you learn something for the very first time.
ADD/ADHD – Attention Deficit-Hyperactive Disorder
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I get so frustrated with him.
We spent three hours doing that paper last night, the one that was assigned 2 weeks ago and today, HE FORGETS TO TURN IT IN!
I start by showing them my phone and the 6 different reminder lists in it (aside from my calendar).
I explain why I have scrap paper on the end-table by my chair there for notes I write to myself for when I get home.
I also show them the notes I have written myself that day that I will read and do when I get home tonight.
I also explain the notes I write for myself at home for the office, where I put them so I won't forget them in the morning when I go to work.
We spent three hours doing that paper last night, the one that was assigned 2 weeks ago and today, HE FORGETS TO TURN IT IN!
I start by showing them my phone and the 6 different reminder lists in it (aside from my calendar).
I explain why I have scrap paper on the end-table by my chair there for notes I write to myself for when I get home.
I also show them the notes I have written myself that day that I will read and do when I get home tonight.
I also explain the notes I write for myself at home for the office, where I put them so I won't forget them in the morning when I go to work.
Oppositional Defiant Disorder – ODD
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When I was a little kid, I remember, on the very rare occasion, my mother would say that I was throwing a "temper tantrum" (Actually, my brother threw A LOT more tantrums than I. Just saying.).
Anyway, I never really knew what a temper tantrum was but I knew I was bad for throwing it and I would then begin to hope Mom didn't tell Dad when he got home from work.
What is it?
ODD is just as the title suggest; a child being oppositional or defiant.breaking the rules, talking back, refusing to do as told, doing the opposite of what they are told.
Anyway, I never really knew what a temper tantrum was but I knew I was bad for throwing it and I would then begin to hope Mom didn't tell Dad when he got home from work.
What is it?
ODD is just as the title suggest; a child being oppositional or defiant.breaking the rules, talking back, refusing to do as told, doing the opposite of what they are told.
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